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Imagine if you never wore glasses, maybe you never had to. Then one day, you decide to try them out with no prescription, asking someone to borrow theirs. Wearing them all the time…they become a part of your everyday life. It’s the first thing you put on before you get out of bed, and the last thing you take off before your head hits the pillow. They become your identity, how you see yourself and the world around you. There’s just one problem: they aren’t made for you, becoming burdened, you decide something has to change. I would like to think at this point you would choose to take them off to never wear them again, am I right? At least I know I would. 

This is how our hearts can become when they get stained by the wounds we have picked up along the way.  Burdened, becoming very heavy, making us see and feel from a perspective that isn’t quite right. I have first hand experience with this and have helped many come out from underneath this deception that once held them captive. When we choose  to carry the negative experiences with us this is how we tend to live our lives. We don’t see things clearly, we don’t hear things clearly, and we will more than likely make things up in our minds that just aren’t true. 

What I will suggest to you if this is you or someone you know it’s time to take off the glasses and fix our vision. There is nothing that will jeopardize the well-being of your future more than a poisoned heart. It makes people live from a place that is harmful to themselves and others. Never walking in the purpose that is intended for them and never experiencing relationships on a life changing level.

If I have one piece of advice, it’s this… Now is the time to take responsibility for the pain you have endured in your life. We live in a world today that has become very skewed. Many are carrying a victim mentality and have become comfortable blaming others for their issues. I call it learned helplessness, it’s not a new term, however it isn’t talked about much today.

I remember when I was coming out of the bad experiences I once lived, no one took responsibility for me nor did I expect them to.  I knew the only way forward was to own the place I was in, to climb out of it. I’m glad I made that choice because it built me into someone who could stand behind the person I was becoming.

When I look around and see things like this it truly breaks my heart. When did we become a people that won’t put in the work to become the best version of ourselves? When did it become tolerable to trauma dump our lives onto whoever we decide is next in line? Aren’t you tired of the hamster wheel? Always running but never moving forward. I want to help you come out of this dark place.  Here are a few things you can do to start cleaning your lens. 

Take Ownership of your life. I understand everything that a person has been through is not always their fault, however  you are responsible for the healing that needs to take place. It will become your superpower over time. 

Let others help. Pride makes a home in our hearts when we have experienced pain beyond normal levels. We just try to power through because we can’t depend on others to help us, simply because we don’t trust them. The only way to get through it, is to walk through it, letting someone else into the chaos will make you feel like you’re not alone. 

Be Honest- When you get honest about where you are at, it helps you see the reality of where you can go from here. The longer we live in denial the longer we stay on the hamster wheel of disappointment, turmoil and ruined relationships. You will only receive help from others to the level you are honest with them.

I believe in you and know you are capable of cleaning up your heart. The world is being robbed when we decide to not become the best version of ourselves, The world needs you to be you…